Here is a list of 15 things to give up in order to achieve happiness that I found on the Internet, courtesy of "Purpose Fairy," which I thought you might find interesting. There are so many of us who can't stand the idea of being wrong -- wanting to always be right -- even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain for us and for others. Whenever you feel the "urgent" need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: "Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?" (Wayne Dyer) What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big? Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you -- situations, events, people, etc. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are, and you will see how much better that will make you feel. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly! "A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind." Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, many things -- people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy; no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you're not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don't understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything about. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses -- excuses that 99.9 percent of the time are not even real. The moment you detach yourself from all things (and that doesn't mean you give up your love for them -- because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love... well, real love is pure, kind, and selfless, where there is love there can't be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist), you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind and so serene. Msgr. Frank C. Wissel, D.Min., is pastor at St. Mary Church in Greenwich and the founding director of the St. Maximilian Kolbe House of Studies for boys in Bridgeport.