Do you live in Greenwich?
Yes, for 37 years.
Are you married?
No, I'm a widow.
What was your husband's name name?
Alfred (Fred) Gray Parmelee -- We were married 52 years. At our 50th anniversary dinner at Rebecca's the people at the next table were on our same wave length and when our cake was brought to us they upped and paid for our dinner. They asked us what the secret of our long marriage was. We answered, acceptance of each other.
Do you have any children?
Yes, a daughter, Jennifer Parmelee-Hidaru, married to Tsegaye Hidaru, and two granddaughters, Sarafina, 13, and Sophie, 8.
Are you retired?
What did you do when you were working full time?
I was a professional lead singer in opera and a professional teacher of singing. I taught at SUNY Purchase and in both New York City and Greenwich studios.
What did you want to be when you grew up?
A singer. I sang before I spoke.
What are your main hobbies and interests?
Gardening, writing and composing.
Are you computer savvy?
No. I live in the Renaissance.
Do you have a favorite sport?
No. I am definitely not a jock. I'm all right brain.
Do you have a favorite book?
It's the last one I've read.
Do you have a favorite work of art?
I love sculpture. I would like to do sculpting in my next life. I found natural wooden sculptures in my garden that are my treasures.
Do you listen to music?
All the time. I listen to my CD's as I have such a vast collection. Right now I'm into the Naruda Songs, sung by Lorraine Hunt Lieberson.
Do you have a favorite piece of music?
Carmen's Intermezzo. That's what I played for Fred's funeral
Do you have a favorite movie?
Do you have a favorite actor or actress?
What is a TV show that you watch regularly?
"The Jim Lehrer Newshour," and I like documentaries.
Who do you think was the best President of the United States?
Horrors, I don't know! They've all been pretty bad.
If you could tell the president of the United States one thing, now, what would it be?
Move towards peace as fast as possible. Be big on environment because we're not going to be here unless we do something about it. Be an example to the world.
What is your greatest guilty pleasure?
Chocolate, and ice cream.
What is your biggest pet peeve?
People who don't listen.
Do you have any regrets in life?
Not doing enough for other people.
What achievements in your life are you most proud of?
Learning to listen. But what I'm proudest of is coming back from various maladies and the discipline and focus I gave to that.
Best piece of advice to give to the younger generation?
Simplify your life and don't get so hooked on material things.
What gives you your greatest joy?
What are you looking forward to?
Spending more time with my family, and maybe writing.